Bit late for this info, but Epson in the last year has been even more aggressively targeting third party ink and refillable cartridges. If you are using a refillable cartridge, especially with Epson, the best idea is to never do a firmware update.
The 212XL still has refillable cartridges available, but I don't see any recent listings with auto reset chips in them. The people to contact will be Inkowl.com - they keep pretty good tabs on this. All of the auto-reset chips come out of China, so another place to look is for a good vendor on Ali Express.
I suspect, though, at this point you may have to go with a chipless firmware. The 2830 is supported by
chipless solutions. There are auto reser chips available for my Epson WF-7720, but I ended up going with a chipless firmware anyway, just because it was easier.